Julie Answers: How can I overcome my fear and anxiety about divorce and forget about the guy?
Heartbroken and confused asked:
My husband filed for divorce a few months ago. I was doing ok, but then he started coming to me to talk about people he was dating and ask for my advice! At first I tried to be helpful, but then it was just making me sad so I told him to stop involving me in that. Then he said he wanted to talk, and we ended up being intimate. I was encouraged by this, but then he made it clear that he still wanted to divorce because he wants to date other women and feels we are not compatible. I said fine but that I felt used. Then it happened again, and I guess I fell for it.
I suggested we try marriage counseling but he said no, that he doesn’t think it will work.
I told him he was hurting me giving me mixed messages, and he said he wouldn’t do it again. We are continuing to live together (but in separate rooms) due to Covid. He’s away this week for work, but I’m afraid the same thing will happen again when he gets back and that I won’t be strong enough to resist. How do I focus on all the negatives of being with him when my mind goes to his good qualities and fear of loneliness?
Dear heartbroken and confused,
