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The Lobotomy Technique
It’s not as weird as it sounds, I promise
It might sound disturbing, but it’s really just an exercise in anger management. No one in this story gets an actual lobotomy.
But yeah…. Anger. I learned that I had “issues” with it when I became a parent. I am outwardly calm. I have been told, “You are so mellow,” more times than I can count. I don’t experience myself internally to be mellow, but apparently I give off that vibe.
Before I became a mom, I could count on one hand (and still have a few fingers left over) the number of times in my adult life when I had actually lost my temper with another person. I was not without emotion; I’ve always gotten angry and huffed and puffed and vented in my own way. I was (and usually still am) just very controlled about expressing my anger to other people.
Before I became a mom, I could count on one hand the number of times in my adult life when I had actually lost my temper with another person.
But as my son was growing up, this was no longer the case. When he would do something that upset me (and usually this stemmed back to me feeling out of control, like I was supposed to be able to control his behavior and was failing) I would feel heat rising…
